I'm turning another year older in exactly a month's time, and this year is quite a big deal for me. While it's normal to be dissatisfied with several things in life, I am, at this point in time, content. I have everything I could possibly ask for, and I couldn't be more thankful. My family in incredible, I love my job, my friends are awesome and my boyfriend? Being with him makes me happy.
People say your thirties are the best years of your life, and thankfully, I've got quite a few more years before I hit the big 3-0, but here are some things I now know having lived through a few years of my twenties.
Shit underwear will make you feel like shit.
$3 Cotton On knickers will make you feel like you're worth $3, and on the other side of the spectrum, sexy time underwear is usually not meant for day-to-day wear. Believe in good underwear. I worship Agent Provocateur & Victoria's Secret.
Ask for what your want & chances are, you'll probably get it.
Most times people are too afraid or too shy to ask for what they want. There is a 50-50 likelihood of your getting something if you'd just open your mouth to ask for it, you'll probably get it. And if you don't, hey, at least you tried!
Your favourite Christmas song will make you smile, no matter what time of the year it is.
It's true. I have a few Christmas songs in my iPod and on different occasions when the song has come on when I put my iPod on shuffle, I found myself secretly humming and grinning to myself. Of course, I hope the next person doesn't hear me because it's in the middle of April and I'm humming "I don't need a lot for Christmas..."
Manage your expectations and your aspirations.
It's good to dream and it's good to have goals to work towards to, but set them realistically. Chances are, if you're studying journalism or mass comm, every other girl is aspiring to be the next Anna Wintour. It's not that it's a bad thing to aspire to be the Pimp Momma behind the most influential beacon of fashion knowledge in the world, it's that you need to set your standards where it's visible. One step at a time, or you'd end up disappointed, and honestly, there could not be anything worse than being disappointed in yourself.
Pick up makeup tricks, groom your brows and exfoliate!
I'm no makeup expert, and I'm not asking you to get a full-on makeup course. Just get a one-on-one session with a makeup pro like the fab Andrea Claire and learn tricks that will come in handy for years to come. I am obsessed with grooming my brows and exfoliate, both of which never fail to make me feel like a new woman. Seriously.
Learn how to cook one dish well!
I actually enjoy cooking and feeding people, but I've learnt that it's good to have a dish that you make perfectly every single time without fail. I have made this said-dish multiple times when I stay at people's places all over the world to thank them for letting me crash on their couch, and it's made them love me more.
Find out what colours and styles look good on you.
People say you can't own too many black dresses, but I own only one. I hate wearing black. In fact, of late, I have been wearing every bloody colour except black. I know what colours look good on me, and what doesn't, and I know what styles I can pull off, and what I can't [oversized crap - I look like I'm wearing a garbage bag].
Gratifying. Albeit disgusting.
Being nice to someone you're not fond of does not make you a bitch. It just means you've grown up.
It's easy to be catty to someone you can't stand, but suck it up a little and grin and bear it.
Have money, will travel.
I've stayed in $20 shacks by the beach to suites that cost $8,000 per night. I've sat in a truckful of people where I've had a woman's elbow shoved into my ribcage, a baby's head partially on my lap and my hair matted to my head; and I've bathed in the sweet luxury of a first class seat in the skies. Travelling keeps my adrenalin pumping, and if you haven't travelled [travelling and holidaying are two different things!], you should!
A hair cut helps.
When you're in the pits, exhausted out of your mind, or in the brink of an emotional breakdown, a hair cut might give you new perspective. Nothing like shiny new hair to give you a good jolt of reality.
Keep your friends close, your family closer and don't have enemies. [yes! that's Zoie in the photo when she was a wee lil' tot!]
Keep the most important people in your life close. Don't ditch your friends when you have a boyfriend, and learn to love your parents. You may have resented the way they have brought you up, but you turned out pretty well, didn't you? Believe it or not, they brought you up the best way they knew how. Now, all you have to do is love them. It's quite easy. And enemies? Don't even bother with them.
Forgive, but don't forget.
Like the saying goes, 'Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me'. Forgive mistakes people do, but remember it. You don't want to forget and have it happen to you again. That would be tragic.